Dealing With Unwanted Criticism.

Here are some tips how.

When you’re putting yourself out there to achieve your goals, you are also low-key working hard to be accepted by your peers. You are also being vulnerable as you feel exposed to public scrutiny or randoms on the internet really! It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone and become more visible on social media and to your own circles.

We tend to want our friends and families’ approval and support. But then there are times you get criticism from people when you least expect it. A lot of the time people think they are looking out for each other when giving criticism but they tend to forget that if they’re not qualified to criticize then they just shouldn’t do it.

Tip 1. So when you receive criticism or unsolicited advice, pause and take time to mull it over. If you’re like me, I get quite irritated by it and need time to deal with it before I can give a calm reply. Otherwise out of irritation I know I’d be rude with a quick reply so I take my time.

Tip 2. Question the validity of the person giving the criticism. Are they qualified to criticize your work or you? Are they in the same business as you or same style as you to give sound advice? If they are not, which most of the time is the case, well then straighten your shoulders and say thanks, I will take it into consideration but I really didn’t ask for your opinion. The reason I say it this way, is to make them know, that you’re not someone to be given unsolicited advice to whenever they feel like it! Also the fact they aren’t in the same business as you are, doesn’t really give them the know-how to make a judgement. If they are in the business then consider their input but you are under no obligation to accept their criticism. Moreover question the intentions behind the criticism. Never forget there are mean people out there out to ruin someone else’s joy. So take it with a grain of salt, acknowledge their input and suggest maybe next time give advice only when you’ve asked for it.

Tip 3. Let’s face it, criticism out of the blue can make us waver in our self belief and that is the unwanted effect of criticism. So revert back to the start of your empowering journey, remember your why, and all the reasons you got into your groove in the first place and pep talk yourself back into your strong stance. Believe in yourself and your ability and remove the self doubt that the criticism has brought back up. Be strong in your belief in what you’re trying to accomplish and you’ll be well on your way until the next negative Nancy.

It’s a fact of life people will give you unsolicited advice but how you deal with it is within your control. Remember to think it over, take your time before you send a reply which you may regret. Question the validity of the criticism whether they are qualified to make such a call and also the intentions behind their input. Last but not least, remember who you are, be confident in your choices and move on with your positive outlook on your journey.

It’s a fact of life people will give you unsolicited advice but how you deal with it is within your control. Remember to think it over, take your time before you send a reply which you may regret. Question the validity of the criticism whether they are qualified to make such a call and also the intentions behind their input. Last but not least, remember who you are, be confident in your choices and move on with your positive outlook on your journey.

Published by @globalpacificwoman

RVP for Crowned For Success a Woman Empowerment Group. I motivate women who are stuck in a rut trying to find their purpose and help them to set goals and a plan to execute them.

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